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Today I woke up to a conversation that “awoke” in me the grizzly bear instinct of protecting my children.

My daughter, came crying to us because of something a relative said to her. Basically, she called someone out that was leading a lie, a double-life. When this person retaliated, my daughter became hurt.

I told her not to let it get to her. This is something that everyone knows about this person, and God gave my daughter the guts to stand up to the demons at work. It really says a lot about her forming character.

Now the Mama Bear Grizzly side of the story:

I have a message for you, Mr. Relative:

You know who you are.

Seven years ago, I watched how my two young daughters saved their hard-earned Christmas money and bought you presents. Seven years ago you promised to come home for Christmas, but didn’t, and I watched my children’s disappointment turn into tears. Each year the same promise, and the same promise broken, until the year when you lied to me on the phone, said you’d be home,the next day and weren’t. After that, I never want to see your face again.

You play the victim and fish for sympathy in order to appear great in your own eyes. The only time you contact anyone up here is if you want money.

You can get pissed off all you want, I’m saying what everyone else up here knows to be true.

I don’t expect, nor do I want a reply to this. I’ve had the common courtesy (although WHY I don’t know) to leave names out of this. By replying to this thread, please understand, you could be misidentified, or identified correctly depending on who you are, as the person I’m calling out.

And please, don’t EVEN start with how I have “unforgiveness in my heart” toward you. If you look at salvation, Jesus only forgives those who REPENT and ask His forgiveness. If He forgave everyone for everything, then everyone would go to Heaven, and according to His Word, that is not the case!

Here’s the last thing I’m going to say on this subject: You screw with or hurt my kids again, you will have a Grizzly Mama to answer to!

The presents are still unopened, up on a shelf. I told the girls to open them up and use them, but they haven’t. I’m sure it brings up too many painful memories.

I’m sitting here in the waiting room while my wife is in the other room having spinal surgery, so what I’m going to tell you is based on experience!

Kindles and iPads and Smartphones, Oh My!

Be Happy, Follow Our GuideMake sure that you bring some kind of electronic device to pass away the hours while you’re waiting for your loved one to get out of surgery. I brought along an iPad so that I would have something to do to pass the time while waiting for my wife’s surgery to be completed.

Having the iPad along made this long, tiring, wait a lot more bearable. Additionally, I brought along some work to do and three ebooks to read during the time that she was under the knife and as it turns out, the surgery lasted about four hours. The great thing is the internet connection was free even though the operation itself cost thousands of dollars, I guess nothing is really ‘free’!

It’s very sad because I heard a lot of people that were very stressed about their loved ones however, if they would’ve thought ahead and brought something to get their mind off the subject they would have had a peaceful afternoon. Thank God none of them have had bad news today, all of the procedures went as planned, and of everyone that I met, their procedures went off without a hitch.

Meanwhile, I was dutifully reading my books and taking notes, my mind was off in web development land.  This alone made the afternoon go by very quickly and thankfully, not one time did I think about the doctors opening up wife’s spine in the other room!  Honestly, that would’ve been too much to endure.

Don’t Forget Your Headphones

This smiling baby melts our heartBring along some headphones, although the reason might surprise you, they are not for what you think. While you’re sitting there waiting for your significant other to get out of their procedure you’ll be surrounded by people that have no idea what is going on, and they will be very stressed out, and they will be talking very loudly on their cell phones.

To me, people talking very loudly is stressful enough! While using headphones I can play some soft music while reading a book and not be aware of what’s going on around me, and this is very comforting.

What NOT bring is as Important as What TO Bring

Be sure to pay attention to your doctors adviceThis one has more to do with what you should not bring along! Leave all of your relatives that tend to worry and stress out very easily at home. This is not the time to have them in your presence. You can relay any messages through Facebook and tell everyone to go there because you will be updating your Facebook page with all of the latest medical news.  There’s nothing to gain having a stressed-out relative along for the ride, well, other than a headache.

Very Important, Basic Cosmetics

Have a travel bag along with some cosmetics like a toothbrush and toothpaste as well as some word searches and magazines. Additionally bring along a few extra shirts, I spilled coffee on my shirt this morning so rather than walking around looking like a fool I just changed my shirt!

Something You Can’t Bring in a Bag: Patience

Bring along a bunch of extra patience!

Keep in mind that the hospital is always a stressful place and that you should be aware of others and their mental state. It’s certainly not pleasant being around a bunch of people who are stressed out, but please understand their situation.

Keep in mind that the hospital is always a stressful place and that you should be aware of others and their mental state.

I was sitting next to a girl earlier whose mother had cancer, and she was very stressed out wondering if they were going to get all of the cancer out of her, I was praying for her. I just tried to be there as someone to talk to in this troubling time in her life.  Of course I’m not positive that my words did anything to ease her nerves, however I would like to think so!

Bring Some Snacks to Avoid the Profiteers!

After paying $11 for a meal at the Subway located within the hospital, I would be remiss if I didn’t mention to bring along some snacks! The ‘meal’ opportunities in the hospital are not the best, to say the least. It’s probably better that you bring along some homemade snacks to ease the burden on your pocketbook.

Your loved one could be in the hospital for days, be sure to take this into account!Additionally, it kind it just makes you pissed off when you see the prices of hospital food, they understand that you’re a captive audience and that you will pay anything just to get something to eat, so they jack the prices up accordingly!

If you follow this basic hospital checklist it will help you greatly, my wife just came out of surgery and she is now in the recovery room, she made it through with flying colors THANK GOD.

I have to go now, wishing you all the best!

Food brings our  family together. My mom can make the best country comfort food you could ever want. And I have a few dishes that the family begs for, such as jambalaya, beef stew, stroganoff, and curry.

This weekend we received an unexpected visit from my daughter, who lives away at college.  Friday evening, I heard a voice say, “Hey, you need a haircut!” to which my husband replied, “Yes I do!”  I looked up and there was my beautiful daughter, Allyson, whom I thought I wouldn’t see for another three weeks! It was so good to see her, and she spent so much time with us (instead of her friends)! It was a great weekend.

Saturday we went shopping with her. We went to the grocery store and bought stuff for “KFC Bowls” to have for dinner at my daughter’s insistence.  Here’s our recipe for Homemade KFC Bowls:

  • homemade mashed potatoes
  • popcorn chicken
  • canned corn
  • gravy (chicken gravy or brown gravy, whichever you prefer)
  • grated cheddar cheese

Layer the above items in your bowl, begging with the potatoes, then the chicken, etc. in your bowl and pour brown gravy (or at my mom’s insistence, chicken gravy) over all.  Garnish it with the grated cheddar cheese.

This has always been one of our very favorite family meals, and it was the first time in a long time where I found my whole family (less my oldest daughter, who was at work) at the dining room table.

On Sunday, my mother made an awesome lunch of baked pork chops and stuffing. Wow, what a feast! Here’s Mom’s recipe for her yummy concoction:

  • 2-3 lbs of pork steak, or pork roast, your preference
  • 3 boxes of stuffing mix, your preference – make per directions on box
  • Extra-virgin Olive Oil
  • Sea Salt
  • Pepper
  • Sage

Sear the meat in EVOO and season with sea salt, pepper and sage. Then layer them in a well-oiled roasting pan with stuffing, then meat, and topped off with more stuffing.  Roast it at 350 degrees F for a half hour, then turn it down to 200 degrees F until ready to eat.

We also had corn and peas.

We called everyone to dinner, but strangely enough, only the women showed up. So, my mom, my two daughters, and I enjoyed this wonderful feast together. We mentioned several times the guys didn’t know what they were missing!

As soon as we were done eating, dessert came out of the oven. It was a simple box brownie mix, but we smelled it for a while, and we all had sweettooths after such a great meal.  So my mom frosted the brownies and cut them. My oldest daughter asked, “Do we have any ice cream?” and I answered, “Yes we do!” I got out the sundae bowls, and we layered ice cream, a hot brownie, and more ice cream. We all agreed it was one of the best desserts ever, as simple as it was.

And the thing that made it the most special is the love we share.

Today I learned about a different kind of unconditional love.

I’d heard in the past all you had to do to keep your man happy was, if he wasn’t horny, bring him a sandwich.

Sometimes my husband gets so involved in work, I wonder if he’s avoiding me, or if he is angry with me.  Neither is true, come to find out!  He works a full-time job and is in the process of developing his business.  And he is doing it for us!

Over the past 5 years or so, my health has gone downhill dramatically.  A number of different ailments have forced me to quit my job and file for disability.  This cut our income by 40%. We have four kids, two of whom are in college. Our home was foreclosed on, and student loans garnished my husband’s paychecks. It all hit at once.

The only thing that kept us from totally losing it was the Lord.  We have had such hard times in our marriage. But the Lord has been so faithful, always providing for all of our needs. Sometimes our needs aren’t what we think they are.

We ended up moving in with my mother when our hot water heater sprang a leak.

She actually has a great house, my mom.  She gave us the upstairs, which consists of three bedrooms, one nice-sized bathroom, and a living room which will have a mini-fridge and a place for our Bunn coffee maker and our Keurig.  The master bedroom is huge, allowing room for our king-size bed, my husband’s desk, and a dresser.  I spend most of my time with him since my bed is the most comfortable place for me to sit and write.

He asked me to write for this website. I wasn’t very enthusiastic at first. But after what he told me, that he was working so many long hours for us, I feel it’s the least I can do for him. It’s our plan to be able to get a simple, small place with a lot of land, and be as self-sufficient as possible.

Plan. It’s wonderful to have a plan, and actually move forward with them toward a goal. When your husband says, “We are going to do this,” support him. If you have any concerns about it, voice them at that time and get his feedback. After this, it’s too late to bring up your fears. If you do, you are giving him the impression you don’t consider him a true leader in your home, that you don’t trust him. And there’s nothing that will bruise his ego as the “man of the home” more quickly.

If you want some attention from your hard-working hubby, do something he would like to do. Put on something sexy and lay sexily on the bed. When he sees you, inform him of your sexual needs, and I guarantee, you will get his attention in both ways!

If he doesn’t notice you, or doesn’t respond in the way you hoped he would, don’t be angry! Remember, he’s working hard for YOU, and at that moment, his mind was still “at work.”

Trust me. As long as you keep your emotions in check and keep supporting him in every way, you will receive a reward in the future.  Remember, it’s not about you alone, it’s about you both.  You will have a stronger marriage because of it.

Are You Ready for a Potential Disaster?

Well, are you? Most Americans believe there will never be a time when cash becomes useless; when there is no more food at the stores and the gas is all gone.  The food we do get comes from the government, and we will be waiting in long lines.

So, what kind of a disaster am I talking about? How about a comet strike? Or a supervocano eruption?  What if our enemies decide to destroy our infrastructures like fiber optics or power grids.  What if they take out our communication satellites?  All modern conveniences would cease to function. If a supervolcano erupts, all kinds of cataostrophic events could and would occur because of it.  The climate would change for everyone, but especially for the northern or southern hemisphere, depending on which the disaster occurs in by either raising or lowering the temperature by several degrees.

FEMA recommends keeping 3 days of food on hand in case of a “natural” disaster.  In any of the cases I mentioned above, 3 days worth of food and supplies is just that: 3 days worth of food and supplies. Unless you live 10 miles or more from a grocery or convenience store, you probably go to the grocery store more than once a week. My kids go to the local convenience store once a DAY it seems like to me! I recommend having at LEAST SIX MONTHS of food (for EACH person in your household), batteries, water, toilet paper, first aid supplies, fuel, and other supplies like medications, tampons, soaps, lanterns and oil, and a battery operated radio, in case someone is able to get a message out. This could be your only means of communication.

If a disaster occurs, you can rest assure knowing you are prepared.

I will make two lists that will be available in .pdf format so you can download it and print It at your convenience, or you can send it to friends and family.

The first list will be types of natural disasters and unnatural disasters you should be prepared for, depending on where you live. The other list will have supplies to have on hand for any type of disaster. It’s “all-inclusive.”

You are probably asking, “How the heck am I supposed to accomplish that?” I agree. The cost alone can be staggering, especially if you purchase six months of the stuff sold on QVC, Amazon, EBay,

and prepper sites.  However, there are more cost-effective ways of preparing for an emergency.

I became disabled this year and I had to quit my job.  Due to this, financially we are struggling. This has forced us to move in with my mother, who is on Social Security. Thankfully, the house is paid for. I really feel the need to prepare for a possible emergency.  Some of the ways we have prepared is by growing and preserving our own food, qualifying for government programs (we have a very limited income) which give you dried beans and peas, canned fruits and vegetables, quart-size milk containers that you can store on your shelves, powdered milk, generic cheese like Velveeta, pasta and spaghetti sauce, etc.

The different places we receive non-perishable foods have a lot of the same stuff. Some of it we give away to the Salvation Army.  But a lot of it we rotate out and eat.

We’ve been blessed with a place to be able to store canned foods and supplies.  It is a giant task, especially when there are six of us in our home, plus a daughter away at college.

Some of you reading this may be thinking, I do not have the means to do this, nor do I have a place to store all of these supplies.  Trust me, I’m not writing this to stress you out, I’m writing this to HELP you!  Where there is a will, there is a way!

So, this will be a series of articles, probably once a week or so. To ensure you don’t miss any information that might save your life or your family’s lives, be sure to subscribe!

By the way, your husband will LOVE you for thinking about his and your future, and he will praise you to his buddies too!

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